Hi Reader,

It’s true—I’ve always been the “always working on herself” type of gal. How about you?

I live what I talk about, so I don’t mind showing you the unglamorous reality of someone who teaches transformation for a living.

I’m not as zen as you might imagine 🤷‍♀️.
But I am real.

Most of my days are filled with facilitating deep work, prepping for intensives, answering Telegram messages from women in an integration container, and navigating my own patterns when I get triggered by my persistent-and-insistent five-year-old. (He’s one of my most compelling invitations to evolve.)

So when I get asked, “Stela, how do you live this day-to-day? Do you still get triggered?” I laugh because I have come to accept a fundamental truth about being alive:

Triggers aren’t the problem. Not knowing what to do with them is the problem.

When you and I feel trapped in the habit of our existence, we repeat our history and wonder why it's not working (yes, despite the years of therapy and retreats).

Because there's a difference between knowing better, and living better.

What's in the gap is the process you and I choose to live our life from.

Long ago, I discovered a process called Quantum TLC™, which helps me be in the presence of triggering life choices without losing myself to old patterns.

The trick is to be both willing and able to differentiate which voice is which. That's how our patterns become ... well, our patterns.

With the work I choose to do, triggers are constant—because intentional identity shifts require depth and intimacy.

Even after years of this work, my patterns still activate. The difference is: now I know how to trust the Signals Dancing in my body. Which means: I trust I have a choice.

And choice allows us to be powerful in the creation of our own lives.

The question becomes, are we choosing from our truth, or our trauma?

I wish you a spectacular day, from the cabin I'm currently staying in to celebrate my seven year wedding anniversary with the two most adorable guys on the planet (yeah, yeah, that's subjective; but in my world, it's reality).