Hi Reader,

Are you considered “the self-aware one” in your friend group—the one who understands patterns and can explain why everyone (including you) does what they do, but somehow still ends up in the same exhausting patterns?

I hear you.

Whether you’ve done decades of therapy or are just starting to see your patterns, today I want to give you something that shows you exactly which survival strategy you picked up growing up—so you can stop mistaking survival for truth.

If you’re tired of understanding everything but changing nothing…
…I want you to see the specific strategy that’s been running your life since childhood.

When you’re mindful of that, you can recognize when your seven-year-old survival program kicks in, catch it before it hijacks you, and actually choose differently (not just wish you could).

So today, I’m sending you my quiz: Which Survival Strategy Did You Master By Age Seven?​

→ Take the 3-minute quiz ​

Bottom line? You can’t heal what isn’t broken. Your patterns aren’t random—they’re predictable strategies that once kept you safe. The only problem is, you’ve outgrown them.

In this quiz, you’ll discover:

• Which of the five core survival strategies you mastered
• Why this strategy made perfect sense in your family system
• The exact moments when this old program still hijacks your adult life

Nothing beats seeing your pattern clearly laid out… which is precisely what you’ll get in your personalized results.

The trick is to answer with your gut, not your head. 😉

→ Take the 3-minute quiz ​

Stela

P.S. Once you know your strategy, I’ll send a process for interrupting it. And watch for my invitation to a live workshop on telling truth from trauma in real time.