Last week, I was camping with my family — literally on a massive pile of rocks by the ocean.
The salt air was sharp and familiar, like home. A humpback whale surfaced and dove deep right in front of us. Pods of dolphins passed by in the mornings. A seal kept visiting our rock. The belugas made the water sparkle white.
One morning, I sat there in the sun, watching my kid explore the rocks, and I realized something profound: My boundaries aren’t rules I follow — they’re the space I am.
Right now my life is full:
- I’m running a business that doesn’t fit any conventional mold
- I’m mothering in ways that look nothing like the Instagram version
- I’m creating work that matters while everyone else talks about “balance”
Years ago, this much on my plate would have sent me scrambling for boundary “techniques” — time-blocking, saying no, protecting my energy like it was under siege.
The difference? I stopped trying to build walls around my authentic self and started being the boundary, instead.
When you know who you are — really know — you don’t need a rulebook for what to allow in. You don’t need scripts for saying no. You become the filter. Your authenticity becomes the non-negotiable boundary.
That morning on the rocks, with zero conventional “boundaries” in place, I felt more protected and clear than I ever did with my old system of rigid schedules and defensive nos.
Your authentic self IS the boundary. Everything else is just management.
If you’ve been exhausted by trying to maintain boundaries that feel like armor, maybe it’s time to explore what happens when you become the space instead of guarding it.
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Set clean boundaries—and let it be simple. Raising children and changing the world through your work demands clarity. If it feels like performance, it’s not a boundary—it’s a survival script. Decloaking the truth about yourself, to yourself, helps you strip back the noise so you can lead with truth at home and in business. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. They’re watching.
It's time to move away from conventional mothering and into something more authentic, vibrant and life-enriching.
And if you’re ready for a conversation about what boundaries actually look like when they come from authenticity rather than fear, you can reach out to me by replying to this email.
P.S. These insights have a way of finding us when we need them most. Share this with a mom who’s tired of trying to fit her authentic self into someone else’s boundary system.
TL;DR: Authenticity IS the most congruent boundary - you don't need walls when you become the space that naturally filters what belongs. I'm speaking about this at Moms in the Margins alongside other incredible mom entrepreneurs who are redefining what motherhood and business can look like.
PS: Something new is coming for those who join me at Moms in the Margins—an intimate, live group experience where we’ll get radically honest about real-life boundaries, with details dropping soon for the Aug 25 event. Join us!