"Beyond the Hashtag: What it takes to live the talk" explores the magic that lives in the moment, not in the content.
Read it below or on my site https://www.sparkingthesacred.com/blog/beyond-the-hashtags-live-the-talk or enjoy the podcast episode that goes with it!
A few days ago, a friend and colleague of mine sent me an email commanding me for my decision to quit social media. Along with it, she attached this:
Ha! I thought it was so funny, because I am crystal clear: social media has become a massive distraction from our lives. So, I wanted to share this piece about where the magic lives ... and it isn't in the content.
The truth is that magic isn’t in the content.
Magic lives in the moment you stop consuming and start becoming.
One of the perks of my “work” is that I engage with incredibly intelligent women, day in and day out. As a generalization, the women who find their way to me and the WEL-Systems® Institute are well educated to content.
They have read the books and gone to the conferences and inhaled the voices of all the “gurus”.
They have played with alternative methods that empowered them to deepen their relationship with themselves.
Then, they realize…they want more. The more that they seek is not more information or content, but more lived experience to integrate what they already know to be true.
Here’s a harsh truth you may not like: most of us are addicted to consuming information because it feels like progress. The more we know the more we think we can integrate into our lives. There is some truth to that– because you can’t make a different choice if you are not aware that you’re making a choice! Naming it is, after all, the first part outlined in the process.
However, filling your head with content is not the answer to lasting transformation. If you want your life to change, you have got to move beyond the passive state of receiving information (say, by reading) and intentionally engage in an active way to experience. That is how you transform your nervous system, your mindset, and your beliefs. Without experience, all you’ve got is an encyclopedia in your head. Sounds impressive, but…can you live it?
The truth is often rather harsh – content is comfortable; evolution is confronting. Growth begins when we apply, embody, and live the insights – when we let them move through us, not just taking up space in our heads.
Knowing Isn't the Same as Living
It’s true that we live in a world that has confused knowing for experience – that is a rookie belief in the journey of evolution.
- You can understand boundaries intellectually and still not know how to stand your ground.
- You can study trauma and still live from your wounding.
- You can read about nervous system regulation and still hold your breath when life gets hard.
You already know this!
The real internal shift happens when you become the person who lives differently-not just knows differently.
Experience Is the Portal to Transformation
If you take one thing with you from this exchange, let it be that true transformation is an embodied process. It is a lived experience. It is in the lived experience that it shifts from an intellectual knowing to wisdom.
Wisdom is gathered when:
- you stay in the discomfort
- you breathe through the moment with the intention of becoming more
- you trust that your body is the conduit for evolution
- you let go of wanting to know but choose to experience instead.
Because information doesn’t rewire your nervous system – embodied presence, does. Without embodied presence, all you’ve got is a disembodied intellect making choices from the wounding hoping it is not.
Evolution requires presence. Awareness comes from staying curious to discover, not from knowing. So until you feel and integrate the pattern in your body, no matter how ouchy or yucky, and choose something different in real time, the internal story remains unchanged. The wounding runs the show, and all you can do is hope for a different result, knowing it isn’t possible without you making the tough choices.
A nasty double bind, indeed.
Which brings me to my final point –
Becoming Real Is a Radical Act of Self-Trust
One of the fundamental presuppositions that I work with is that you are already whole. As broken as you might feel, that is the ground within which your evolution is possible. There can be no evolution in “evolved”! It’s a process that is ongoing …
The question is: are you curious to discover your essence? To meet your truth and live from it? If so, then know that you will have to become radical in your commitment to trusting yourself – your inner cues, your inner voice.
- You will have to get really good at deciphering trauma from truth.
- You will have to continuously pause and check in, redirecting from the world ‘out there’ to your inner world ‘in here’ – where you live.
- You will have to become a different person who trusts only your inner cues and nothing else.
Meanwhile, the world will seek to convince you of how wrong you are. But in your reclaimed power, you will know what to trust …
Next steps...
✨ If you’re new to my work:
And you’re realizing it’s time to stop gathering information and start becoming, you can begin right now.
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And you’re ready to go deeper—into the depth of the belly of the beast, join us for Engaging and Awakening Others.
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