Have you ever found yourself outgrowing who you’ve always been — but unsure what comes next?
That in-between space is deeply vulnerable, Reader. It’s where clarity of what's next hasn’t arrived yet, but the old cloaks of what has been no longer fit.
It’s easy to doubt yourself there. Easy to think you're lost or broken when really... you’re just becoming.
And here’s the truth we don’t talk about enough:
Identity shifts are hard work.
They demand the death of what was.
The courage to stay in the uncertainty of the unknown.
The willingness to discover what could be—and create it with vision.
It’s not for the faint of heart. Nor for the ones who are comfortable in their status-quo skin (kudos, to you!).
That’s why so few choose ongoing transformation, for its own sake.
Because let’s be honest:
Becoming who you really are is far scarier than staying who you've always been.
Because living up to your potential demands a lot.
But for those who are ready (however terrified and skeptical)… the freedom on the other side is unmatched.
🎥 Watch this video
I share more of this journey in a video I just released. It’s short (12 minutes), but it’s raw and real.
In it, I share what it's like to identify with the culturally conditioned identity that was supposed to keep me safe and bring me a good life but instead it brought me to the edge of my own becoming. I chose evolution over self-destruction.
Here is where I share what it's like to intentionally choose to align with the Truth of who and what I AM. In doing so, my life changed. Because I came to viscerally accept what the quantum world shows us -- I am not this body, I am the animating Life Force itself. And so are you.
"To discover who you are, you have to constantly be willing to let go of who you're not."
🟡 Watch the video here →
🔮 The Death Before the Becoming: Shedding Conditioned identity to reclaim yourSelf.
💭 What you may not know about identity shifts:
- Identity shifts are ongoing and layered and therefore do not happen all at once. You won’t wake up fully transformed. It happens in how you show up, inside yourself. When you choose to show up more honestly, dropping what no longer fits, who you believe yourself to be changes.
- You’ll undoubtedly grieve the older versions of you that you are choosing to let go of. Even the ones you’ve outgrown. The roles you played. The masks you wore. Letting go of a familiar identity always feels like loss — because it is.
- Your relationships will shift too. Some people will cheer you on and the intimacy between you will deepen to unfathomable levels. Others won’t know what to do with the emerging authentic you, and may have opinions about that. The question becomes, how committed are you to living your meaningful life, your way? It can be easy to capitulate in the name of familiarity, and the pressure can be intense (isn't always?!). This is why the process of Decloaking is so imperative -- for you to discover how to land and live from internal safety.
- It will feel like free fall… before flight. The middle space between “who you were” and “who you’re becoming” is vulnerable, raw, and often lonely. It is, after all, your unique journey. You are the only one who can walk the tightrope between who you have been, and who you are becoming.
- The journey is deep, personal and sacred. It is the most rewarding and life enriching journey you can take. How do I know that? Because I live it.
If you’ve ever felt caught between worlds… If you’ve ever wondered where you really belong… If you’re in the middle of an identity shift — cultural, personal, spiritual — this is your reminder: You don’t have to shrink, fit in, or choose the familiar box.
Who you authentically are is far too large, beautiful and spectacular for the confines of the box, anyway...
The question is: do you know that, for yourself?
Read this if you’re afraid of your own darkness… here's what I cover:
- What they called pathology was actually my body’s intelligence
- The psychiatric system didn’t save me—it brutalized me further
- Theta state and the making of your identity
- Darkness as the gateway to your truth—not your downfall
- Your nervous system isn’t broken—it’s brilliant
- Integration is not a concept—it’s a process
Are you afraid of the dark? Read this now.
🧭Ready to hear your voice beneath the noise?
When you’re in the middle of an identity shift, it can feel disorienting — like everyone else’s expectations are louder than your own clarity.
If that’s where you are, I recommend a grounded email & audio resource that can help:
📍The Truth Beneath the Noise by yours truly.
It’s a 7-part email experience designed to help you:
- Slow down and turn inward
- Notice and release the pressure to “have it all figured out”
- Reconnect with what’s true for you beneath the roles, labels, and noise of the cultural programming.
This isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about tuning in.
👉Dive in now
🌀Pathways Back to Yourself
📘 When the Horse Dies…
A bold invitation to stop dragging what you’ve already outgrown.
🎧 Decloaking audio series
Start listening to your body — and hearing yourself again.
🌐 WEL-Systems®
A living framework for women awakening to who they truly are.
✋ How to connect
If this speaks to something real in you, I’d love to hear from you.
👉 Book a no-pressure coaching conversation
👉 Start with the free Decloaking audio
With deep RIG and reverence,
Stela
P.S. The part of you that’s afraid of this shift? That’s the part that’s been taught to survive by keeping things status quo, manageable, linear, predictable.
The part of you that’s leaning in anyway? That’s the truth of you — and you're coming online.