Hi Reader,
You know that moment when you notice something true inside yourself?
You want to say what it is, but you've been taught not to trust that moment.
So the filters come on.
What can I say? What would a good mom say? What should I say? What will people think?
You see, we are all trained to look outside for answers. We filter our external environment through our internal beliefs. We don't want to be judged. We don't want to do it wrong. We don't want to feel uncertain.
So we suppress our truth, we dampen it, and out our mouth comes an untruth. Or a version of our truth that is incomplete. Sometimes we lash out. Sometimes we say nothing.
None of which are authentic to say.
So people — our children — have no idea who we are. They get access to a manufactured version of us, not the real one. But what happens to relationships built on an illusion?
In a world that is becoming increasingly more barren, we need intimacy.
Intimacy with ourselves, intimacy with our children, intimacy with our creations. Without intimacy, our capacity to experience life fully is profoundly limited.
And without vulnerability, there can be no intimacy.
Intimacy. I saw it defined as into-me-see a long time ago, and it made sense to me. If I want a meaningful connection with another, I have to be willing to go first.
That’s what this ten day writing experience is all about.
Evolution is layered. As you unpack one layer, another shows up. This is why it is a ten consecutive day experience.
Stream of consciousness writing is clarifying. As you write whatever comes up, more of what’s deeper underneath shows up. This is why we write freeflow, pen to paper if you will, for thirty minutes.
Community is the amplifier. As I share my stream of consciousness writing with you over the ten days, your internal state gets ‘triggered’ (and in our world, that’s a good thing!) and you write what’s meaningful for you and your evolution. So does every other woman who has joined the experience.
Gathering in a community of women talking about what’s real shakes up the status quo from the roots. It disarms us from having to hold on too tightly. It gives us permission to just be. It shows us that we are never as alone as we believe we are.
Because children don't learn from what you preach, they learn from who you are being in their presence.
So the question worth asking yourself isn't what am I teaching my child? The real (uncomfortable) question is: who is the person my child is learning from? Not who I wish I was. Not who I hope I am. Who am I actually being?
This is the question at the heart of What Mothering Brings to the Surface experience. I send you my reflections and question, and you write for self-discovery.
As a client recently said "I write to free me. And I do ..." Because stream of consciousness writing frees us.
That's what this experience is. A mini private writing retreat with yourself, about yourself and the most intimate act you will ever engage in your life: Mothering.
P.S. Because your strongest parenting triggers aren't interruptions, they're invitations.
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